As "Cuffing Season" approaches, it is a fact that the number of couples will rise by the boatload. Its cold and we as humans need warmth. While totally understandable there still is a question I pose to my good people out there..... Will this be a monogamous winter for you? Even a better question is will it be a monogamous relationship for your significant other? While most scoff at the idea of ever being cheated on, let's be real it happens to the best of us. Especially in this day and age that its not just free love...its a total freak off that with each weekend brings a new hookup and scandal . So I pose the question is Monogamy Redundant ... For couples is the time where you should be most worried? Heightened state of panic maybe? For my single people if its a winter "hook up" should we keep it 100 and leave ourselves open to more options or should we keep our promiscuity in hibernation to give love a chance as the temperature chills and that bed becomes a tad bit more empty.
Let's keep it real and Keep it Clean
By: Dom Hawkins
First i just want to mention. If u feel u cannot be trustworthy in a relationship then DO NOT waste the other person's mental and physical energy. And i do agree that cheating does happen to the best of us but it does not make it right. And if you are a couple you should not have to be worried. Being in a relationship is having honesty, trust, and communication. If one person has the desire to cheat then be a bigger person and break up with the person. And save each other the pain or sneaking around and eventually gettin caught....YES EVENTUALLY! And "keepin it 100" or finding someone special is that person's choice. Whether it is man or female there should be no scrutinizing on what they want to do during "cuffing season". Just keep it safe!
ReplyDelete-THE FEMALE NATION (Jasmine & Brittnay &Brooke)
hahaha #shoutout to the FEMALE NATION
ReplyDeleteTo me, monogamy becomes redundant because of lack of morals and maturity levels. Respect, honesty, loyalty and faithfulness are becoming lost moral values. When a man and woman communicate with each other honestly, instead of playing games, monogamous relationships can exist. Monogamous relationships equal maturity and communication. People have to know what they want and communicate what they want in order to withstand a monogamous relationship through all "seasons".
ReplyDeleteWe're all in college, none of us are married. WE'RE ALL SINGLE. I wish students especially ones at UC would stop acting like this is the real world, the end of the world, or some sort of marriage hunting ground. The reality is, most of this "relationships" were built on BS and pretense. Monogamy is nothing but a fun phrase to throw around while your in college. I say, have your fun while you're here... if the "couple" makes it out alive and with a degree then, "Cuffing season" probably shouldnt be a factor... until then, stop trippin' if he's doin him, you do you.
ReplyDeleteHonestly at this age it is somewhat redundant, unless mature minds are coming together. Let’s be honest we are all young, impulsive, selfish, exploring and still growing as adults. If you’re asking if an age group that by majority is just now discovering true commitment and self responsibility (with respect towards their career objectives, majors, jobs, organizations, rent, bills etc.) is able to become maturely conscience and honor their commitments to their companions... Probably not lol… Right now just about everyone will probably cheat whether it’s an inappropriate thought, conversation or even the act itself.
ReplyDeleteBut then again some people have that connection, and are able to overcome the norms of our generation... It’s all up to the individuals for real…
#chaddysthoughts
Hope, I completely agree with you!!! "Respect, honesty, loyalty and faithfulness are becoming lost moral values." Monogamy is in a way becoming redundant in our generation for this reason. Just as the FEMALE NATION has stated, we all need to start keepin it 100 with each other. If you do not want to be committed (meaning totally and completely with one person at a given time) then stay out of relationships. Spare the heartaches and sleepless nights for the other person. Smh @TheCoolestUC!! The only part I will agree with is that a lot of relationships are built upon BS and pretense, but you are lacking the reasoning behind it. People jump into relationships for ill-defined reasons! They go into relationships with the wrong mindset, not actually knowing what they want! And with that being said, FAR TOO MANY PEOPLE use college as an excuse to sleep around. Not saying you have to be in a committed relationship, but college is not a sexual playground!!! Lol and it is mind blowing to know winter is actually considered "cuffing season."
ReplyDeleteOk look, cheating happens to the best of us (as said by the #femalenation), but I honestly feel that humans are a creature of habit, and if you habitually cheat in college it will transfer that bad habit over into the "real world" upon graduation. When will we, as a complete black community, start to have respect for ourselves an others. Does anyone not see what this does to us as a people? All we do, males and females included, is hurt and tear each other down, whether your the cheater, cheatee, person who willingly participated in the cheating, we all play apart in this sick game.
ReplyDelete"Cuffing season" is a joke. It’s simply an awful excuse for immature men and women who are afraid of commitment, for what ever reason, to “do them” while still holding on to someone they think has potential. I just feel that if you are going to make a conscious decision to enter into a relationship with someone than you need to be honest and faithful. And if your not looking for a relationship then you need to let the other person know that, especially when sex is involved, because that’s how STIs get spread and unexpected pregnancies occur and one (or both) of the parents want to dip out on a life they created together.....creating more problems within the black community that I have not enough room to discuss here.
Monogamy may be redundant to some people, and if that statement applies to you, than don't commit to a relationship. point. blank. period.
-Nay
Lets be real for a second here, most males ARE up front with females in saying that they don't want a relationship. And even vise versa with females being upfront with males. What happens is the other party feels like they can pressure the person and change their minds about relationships. Then you end up with a person walking a dog on a leash, and not a relationship. And what happens when you let a dog off the leash... they go wild!
ReplyDeleteAnd before I continue, let me just comment on what Nay said... STIs dont get spread from cheating or "cuffing season" they get spread because people dont WEAR CONDOMS! an issue completely separate from this one.
I just feel like people get too wrapped up in these relationships, when they should be worried about getting the hell up outta here with a degree.
Just because you have fun in college does not mean that habit is going to follow you into the real world, white people are the hook up masters... and you dont see any CNN specials on the break up of the white family. This epidemic of "broken" black families you're referring to aren't even in this demographic.
Monogamy may not be redundant, but in college.. monogamy is IRRELEVANT.
Have fun now save yourself some money, when you graduate and get married... cheating is expensive...