OK picture this ladies…you just finished getting sexy and you are stepping out for the night with your girls. You cannot even walk through the club doors before some random guy grabs your arm speaking some nonsense. And then when you turn him down he got the nerve to call you out your name?! Now any man who touches you later that night is about to get their head ripped off. Why don’t men know how to approach and talk to women anymore? It’s fairly easy…hmm be a gentleman. We women have to have tough skin at first to get past the no good morons, but trust inside we are still sweet. It seems now a day that women have to be the forward ones to catch the good men. The men that have guts to approach are some that are not worth the time. Good men please do not give up! Here are some suggestions for the men that need SERIOUS gentleman skills; don’t scream at the female to get her attention, don’t pop up behind her when she’s dancing, or grab her arm/hand. Now I’m just one woman and other women might agree or disagree. My question for you ladies is: What should a man do and not do to get a good vibe from you out on the town? My question for the men is: What has worked and has not worked to get a females attention?
by: Jasmine Shepherd Minni_Faye ---- Follow HER!
OK...I read this and shook my head as I read. First things first women should always be treated with respect. Now that being said you get what you put in so you go to a club, you get thirst buckets left and right...you don't go to hell expecting to see god and you don't go to a club (full of locals) expecting to meet a perfect gentleman. Basically ladies meet a guy elsewhere on campus library/ a student group program anything and then have that 2nd impression be the club lol it will work out best for you trust me!
ReplyDeleteFirst, I had to shake my head as well. Imma make this short and sweet. I dont know why the club was an example cuz wit me and my crew, we there to kick and have a good time fuck the bullshit (excuse my french). Its all about that first impression tho, As "DocLaw" said I rather approach a female in her natural enviroment where ever that might be at the time. SN: Ladies niggas aint shit and we know that and stop letting one boy mess it up for everybody else.
ReplyDelete& for the fellas with no "game" hahahahaha better hit the gym
Call em out!
ReplyDeleteI think really its silly because Guys approach a club as goin to kick it and (honestly) who gonna go! For the night...we don't go to the club lookin for a gf that's silly lol a girl in a club has a better chance to go then say on mainstreet its simple for Guys maybe girls should get a clue?
ReplyDeleteLet em know, I think that ladies should indeed start approaching guys seriously. If you believe you have soemthing to offer why not take that chance to make that first move...You'll be surprised how far that will get you. because Its been countless amount of times where you ladies like to think your shit dont stink.
ReplyDeleteFirst to answer your first question, a MAN doesn't approach a woman but a BOY does. I na boyish mindset, a man doesn't know how to treat a woman. BOYS call girls out of there name but MAN will only call her a queen. What will work to get a females attention is if you treat her like a queen.
ReplyDeleteWomen yall know what yall gettin yall self into when you come to the club lookin sexy..not to mention! us men we drunk neway, not saying that that is an excuse but im lookin out for the ignorant men out there...YOU LOOKIN GOOD SHORT SKIRTS ON AND STUFF PEOPLE ARE GOING TO "HOLLA" AT YOU. If you dont want the attention I suggest u wear a hoodie and sweat pants to #MadFrogFridays
ReplyDeleteDon't worry Jas, I have your back!! To refute EVERYTHING that the men have said, I think it is complete BS that as a woman I can't look sexy without being disrespected. Yes, we wear shorts, skirts and dresses when we go out, but what gives a man the right to put his hands on us? I personally hate for men to be aggressive, especially at the club. Sorry men, but the club is not the place to meet women. Andre smh!!!! You and your boys don't go to the club with sweats on, so why should we?? Too many men weren't raised right and were pacified by women when they were young, so they don't know any better!
ReplyDeleteJasmine, to answer your question...If a man wants some of my time he just needs to come correct. Do not seem too thirsty because it is a major turn off. When approaching a woman, stop being generic. We've heard too many times that you're different from the rest, whomp whomp nobody cares. Show us, instead of spitting game and all that other weak sh*t!!! Lastly, just be yourself, when it comes down to it all we want is sincerity!!!
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHH LISTEN I WAS SPEAKIN FOR THE DUMB MEN OUT THERE OF COURSE I WONT GRAB ON A LADY IF THEY LOOK GOOD I WAS RAISED BETTER THEN THAT MOMMA EANES WOULD KILL ME
ReplyDeleteOh I know Momma Eanes don't play that and honestly in our circle of friends, you guys are exceptions!!! When it comes down to it yall know how to treat women, yall just pick and choose when you want to treat them right!!!
ReplyDeleteI feel like Rubye started out angry lol Hi Rubye
ReplyDeleteSeeing that you want to refute everything i want you to read everything I never once said dont look sexy. I said dont go to the club expecting to find a man and the clubs not going to change because 90% of this is locals anyway and they are consistent with this lol. Also we dont go to clubs looking for women if you again read what i said we go there with a plan females need to understand that and not go to the club looking for their next man. Following the ones who is spending the most at the bar...
Everything in your second paragraph proves something to me that women are too defensive from the start. Dont give me men have made you be defensive. Thats admitting defeat and saying a man determined your attitude you determine that its attitude of ya mother f'n self (katt williams voice). Basically stop being so defensive all women when a guy approaches you because a lot of you have Walls up from jump. That leaves me to my next point if its like that then women should be the first to make the move since yall have so many stipulations....lol
Amen DocLaw, & it seem like females just attract aint shit niggas, cuz me and my crew are so thorough and im sure Dre and his niggas the same...maybe thats what we should be questioning, why do ladies give the aint shit niggas the time of day?
ReplyDeleteThis club scene should be used only with the intent to introduce yourself at first. Im not a fan of talking to womans in the club, but the depending on vibe from the female you either 1) offer her a drink(just common courtesy) and find somewhere yall can actually talk w/o yelling at ea. other.. 2) she gives you the vibe she not really feeling it and a simple "Nice to meet you + compliment" will do... Know yall will meet again on different circumstances. Its happened to me ONLY one or twice back in my day lol.
ReplyDelete“How should men approach a female,” the way he would want a female to approach him; creative, respectful and charming. Most guys do not want a thirsty female or an excessively aggressive female. A guy that is boyfriend material would not want an overly sexual female. Like the old saying goes: treat others how you would want to be treated! I believe that can definitely be applied in the approaching the opposite sex situation. Guys need to have a median yess be assertive, confident, funny, charming, and flirty. Just don’t overdo it
ReplyDeleteLadies just because a one guy approaches you in the incorrect manner that does not give you the right to take it out on the next man. You have to understand women usually wear your emotions on your shoulders which means yall usually have that " Ugh dont talk to me" look. "of course not for me tho" lol . Yall have to understand that your clothing has a big influence on how your approached and by what kind of guys approach you . I'm not saying talk to everybody but dont one bad apple spoil the entire batch.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately one bad apple will spoil the entire batch, that’s a fact. We don't always do it on purpose. It can become second nature. Men too are guilty of letting ONE incident affect how they view the next female, especially if it’s consistent behavior. So fellas, please do not act holier than thou! Everyone holds grudges and opinions, whether it is intentional or not. If we are consistently getting disrespected then we develop a belief that psychologist call behavior-outcome expectancy….if we act a certain way then we will get certain results. In this case, if we have an attitude, we will look less approachable despite what we have on, resulting in us not getting disrespected or approached in public. It’s that simple. The guy that is worth our time will go out of his way to prove us otherwise REGARDLESS OF OUR STANK ATTITUDE. That’s the mentality of some girls I think, we will have our guard up because of our past…but a genuine man will work past that but then again looking for a boyfriend or a male friend at the club is pretty irrational. SO IM PRETTY SURE THE MAJORITY OF FEMALES HAVE AN INVISIBLE SIGN THAT READS: LOOK BUT DO NOT TOUCH. We dress sexy not all the time for the men there it can be for ONE man ( an ex or someone we are interested in) or maybe even simply because it makes US feel good to look sexy. Guys just need to not cross certain boundaries plain and simple our attire is really IRRELEVANT in correlation with how you treat us.
ReplyDeleteI'm hella late but I just wanted to say it really depends on the girl. Yes it may be "off the wall" to grab a girl but lets be honest....what dude hasn't done that and it worked? I'm sure at some point in every guys career he's just grabbed a chick out of the club and she's been ok with it....I'm sure if it were trey songz or chris brown at the door and he grabbed one of yall ladies up it wouldnt be a problem....I think the problem is ladies got to realize guys are only going to do what they can get away with. Im not condoning lack of gentleman skills but again....(being honest)....not to many girls are lady like now a days so why should a guy have to be a gentleman?....to put it more simply if a guy KNOWS he can get more play from a girl by being an ass hole, than you shouldn't be surprised when he acts accordingly....most nice guys finish last...especially at this point in life...girls dont want that guy who will come up to you in the club and politley ask you to dance...that might say they do, but being honest girls want an aggressive guy...and like I said earlier if some celebrity, athelete, greek, or whoever they may be feeling at the time were to approach a girl I dont think it would really matter how he came at her whether it be correct or not, she will still be on it.... thats just my opinion, again I'm not stating right or wrong I'm just stating facts from my own expiriences and from what I've seen first hand....
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DocLaw, let me start by saying I never once directly made a reference to you. My refutation was to all the men. Lol I was in no way angry by any of your comments because frankly they don't apply to me. I will be the voice of women tho. I don't care if you as a man want to accept the fact that woman do become defensive from their experiences. I was referring you Andre's comment when I said women have every right to look sexy and not be disrespected. Kaypable basically said the same thing I said. Just like I'm sure you wouldn't an overly thirsty girl in your face, I wouldn't want that type of dude in mine. I feel as though we are all getting to the age that we should be growing out of the club. Meet me on an intellectual level and approach me with something real!!!
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